Life Lafter Divorce Podcast EP 005: Kiss On My List (pros & cons of divorce) with John Lenore
Divorce: a List of Pros and Cons
In most cases, divorce happens because a spouse is tired of dealing with problems in the marriage. Divorce is the number one way 50% of those married choose to handle their marital problems. But, is divorce a solution to marital problems or, just another way of introducing more problems into an already stressful situation?
There are pros and cons to divorce. When in the throes of a bad marriage I would venture to say that most think about the pros and don’t consider the cons until a divorce is filed and they are either in the middle of nasty divorce litigation or, divorced and living the, sometimes, negative consequences of their choice to divorce.
Based on personal and professional experience, below are the pros and cons of divorce. Consider both before jumping, feet first into the family court system.
Pros of Divorce
1.If you are living in a violent situation divorce and the family court is your out. If ever you should divorce, there is no better reason than domestic abuse.
2.She didn’t cheat once, she has given new meaning to the term “serial cheater.” In that case, bid her “au revoir.” You deserve better and will be better off!
3.He calls you names, controls when and where you are allowed to do anything. He is a bully, who needs that? Divorce him and find some peace of mind.
4.You two have different expectations of marriage. What he wants from the marriage is on the other end of the spectrum from what you want. Meeting in the middle isn’t going to happen and you will only end up resenting each other. Divorce will free you up to find someone who is more “like-minded.”
5.Not everyone views sex as an important part of the marriage contract. Those who are married to folks who don’t consider sex important can live in a special kind of hell. If sex is high on your list of marital priorities but is low on hers’, you have no moral obligation to remain married to someone who is withholding that intimate connection.
6.There are many pros to divorce. It can free you from an emotionally unsustainable situation and free you up to build a healthy, rewarding life either on your own or with a new person.
Cons of Divorce
1.Divorce will have a negative impact on your children. You can lessen the impact on your children by making their needs for security your main priority during and after your divorce. But, make no mistake, divorce is as hard, if not harder on children as it is for parents.
2.Your finances will suffer during and after divorce. If you are a father you will pay child support and, in some cases, spousal support. If you are a woman, your income will drastically decrease leaving you to struggle to make ends meet.
According to marriage researchers Drs. Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher, “Divorcing individuals would need more than a 30% increase in income, on average, to maintain the same standard of living they had prior to their divorce. About one in five women fall into poverty as a result of divorce. Three out of four divorced mothers don’t receive full payment of child support. Most men experience a loss in their standard of living in the years after a divorce, as well, a loss generally about 10%–40%, depending on circumstances.” It isn’t a pretty picture!
3.It can take years to heal from the emotional pain caused by divorce. Regardless of the problems in the marriage you have developed an emotional and physiological attachment to your spouse and the family as a unit. You are detaching yourself from a way of life and it only makes sense that, whether you wanted the divorce or not, it will take time to work through very confusing emotions.
4.Divorce not only changes the relationship with your spouse, it changes relationships you have with friends and family. Are you close to your spouses’ family? Don’t expect that to continue. Expect friends and family to take sides, choose one spouse over the other and leave someone out in the dark. Its human nature and divorce always come with the loss of close friendships and familial relationships.
There are two sides to divorce, the good side, and the bad side.
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